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Bobbie McKeever DISCRIMINATION Hello, I'm Bobbie McKeever living in Las Vegas, NV. I'm sending this message to reach out for help. I was just in a situation where I experienced discrimination to such an extreme extent that I must share my experience. It was at an Read more ... elementary school from one of their teachers. I have reached out to the school's principal, assistant principal, and CCSD. I have heard absolutely nothing from anyone. At the very least I wanted the situation acknowledged by the school so they could address it and handle it so in the future this didn't happen to anyone else. Since I have heard nothing I am now sending my story to anyone who will listen. Situations like this are never ok and the school can't just ignore that it happened. Please take the time to read my story. I'm hoping we can hold people accountable for the very serious situation I had to endure. This is my story about being discriminated against. WARNING: This is the longest post I've ever written in my life. For all of you who wanted to know what happened, here's the story, but be sure to read it when you have free time as it's time consuming. Feel free to share my story so it can be heard. I will no longer be watching the boys due to being discriminated against by the oldest boy's teacher, Kim Moore, who works at John Bass Elementary, and the situation escalating from there when the mother didn't want any "drama". I would like to start from the very beginning. When Aryanna and I first started watching the boys we came up with the schedule of me taking lead on everything and then Aryanna will pick the oldest boy up from school, John Bass Elementary. The new year started and Aryanna was still picking him up. I decided to start helping with pickups twice a week. That way Aryanna can rest a little before having to go to school. She would work all day, drive out to get the oldest boy, drop him off, and then leave for school. I wanted to relieve some of the stress. The mother, Courtney Lytle, was aware that I would start picking him up from time to time but now it's just being put into action. I wanted Aryanna to introduce me to the teacher so she could put a face to the name since Courtney told us everything was taken care of to be able to pick him up. Meeting this teacher, Kim Moore, was the beginning of one of the most ignorant situations I've ever encountered. After she met me, I spoke to Courtney a few days later, she then proceeds to tell me the conversation that took place between her and the teacher. They were conversing and Kim Moore, the teacher, accidentally called me Aryanna's girlfriend. Courtney Lytle, the mother, corrected her and said wife. Kim then asks Courtney which one of us was the wife... Courtney then decided she wanted to identify us as the "black one" and "white one" to clear up the confusion on which one of us was the wife... Courtney also says that I need to be put on the list in order to pick him up which I thought was already taken care of by her since that is what she said to the both of us. Come to find out neither of us are on the list to pick him up. Mind you I'm being told all of this while she is dropping off her youngest boy so it was quite a bit of information to process. After thinking about it for about half the day I realized how truly offended I was by the comments. First the teacher asks which one of us is the wife, which I find highly insulting, and offensive. We are both women, who identify as women, in a same sex marriage, which means we are both wives. Then Courtney decided to identify us by our colors because she said it would be less confusing for the teacher that way. Excuse me? No. You can identify us by our names to clear up any confusion. I would of even been fine with the initial comment on which one of us was which by describing our color but to identify us as the "black one" and "white one" throughout the whole conversation is just ignorant and disrespectful. Two ignorant comments were made by two different people within the very same conversation. The other thing is if one of us is the wife then what is the other??? I would like to know what thought came after her questioning. To me it sounds way too familiar and similar to the phrase, "which one is the girl in the relationship"? Ignorant. When I was introduced to her it was as wife. So... What is so hard to understand about each spouse being a wife. I don't get the question. At all. Anyways, so I sit on all of this and when I realize how truly offended I was by it all I spoke to Aryanna about it. She decided she wanted to go down to the school to talk to the teacher about it all. That way we can clear up any confusion or misunderstandings. I do my very best not to be overly sensitive to certain situations so with that said I was doing my very best to not throw out the word heterosexism. Also keep in mind that the teacher had no idea Aryanna was married to a woman until I was introduced and for any of you who know us know that I'm the noticeable looking lesbian. In that area, I get discriminated against more. She spoke to the teacher to clear it all up and as respectfully as she could she stated that when addressing our same sex marriage we are both wives. She then reintroduced herself saying her name, and then letting her know my name, that way we could be addressed properly from this point forward. Aryanna then asked about the list and what the issue was with it. Kim Moore, the teacher, said I couldn't pick him up until I was on the list. Aryanna then asked why she was able to pick the child up if she is also not on the list. The teacher's reply was because the old teacher told her who she was. I'm confused... If legally you can't release a child to me for not being on the list wouldn't those same legal reasons apply even with the old teacher saying who Aryanna was? If permission from the mother isn't enough then clearly permission from an old teacher can't over ride the legality of having to be on the list, because the school is ultimately responsible for the well being of the child, and can't just release them into anybody's custody off of word of mouth. I have no problem with making sure everything is taken care of so everybody is safe and legally covered but you can not tell me that legally I can't pick him up when Aryanna is illegally picking him up. It's the same thing, neither of us are on the list. I didn't get it but the mother said she would put us on the list and make sure it's all handled. The very next morning I get a text from Courtney Lytle, the mother, of a screenshot from what Kim Moore, the teacher, wrote her. To sum it up the teacher said she went to the front office and found out some more information. She said she was going to send a form home for her to fill out. She said I could pick him up but if I were to show up late then the office wouldn't release him to me. She also referred to who I can only assume is me as the "sitter's wife". Who is the sitter? Who is the wife? Because in actuality I'm the sitter but you're assuming Aryanna is the sitter because she picks him up. So... When she said to start identifying us by our names that also meant within private conversations. Not ok that the day before this very subject was spoken about and still she didn't call us by our names. She said that if I'm late that I won't be able to take him from the office but after she fills out this form then "it should be ok". Should? First of all, if I'm on a legal document stating that this child is to be released into my custody with the mother's permission then it NEEDS to be ok. Saying "it should be ok" insinuates that there is still an option that this child may not be released to me due to whatever reasons she may come up with. Keep in mind that with all of this being said about me Aryanna is still picking up the oldest boy from school without being on any legal document as well. So again I feel completely singled out and discriminated against. We didn't have any problems until the very moment I was introduced. Aryanna introduced me to the teacher on Friday, the conversation with Courtney took place Tuesday, and she texted me all of this Wednesday. Explain to me why I'm the only one being given a hard time when Aryanna is in the same legal situation as me? Both of us were given permission to pick up the child from the mother, only Aryanna can get him since the teacher isn't sure if I'm on the list. Kim Moore, the teacher, found out neither of us were on the list so she said we could both pick him up but if I were to be late then he wouldn't be released to me. The teacher sends home a form to put Aryanna and I both on the list, but then says "it should be ok" for me. Not once mentioning that Aryanna may face the same difficulties as me because it is quite clear that she wouldn't face the same obstacles. What's the difference between Aryanna and myself? Other than our skin colors it's that I'm a noticeable looking lesbian. Unless this teacher truly hates her own race, which is very much possible, then it only leaves my sexuality. Clearly there's an issue with me and I can obviously only assume what that issue is based on the words spoken and the actions taken. Courtney Lytle, the mother, and I start texting back and fourth about the whole situation and I said how this is borderline discrimination, the teacher is making things difficult for only me, and so much more that she literally agreed about. Courtney even said she has never seen a teacher push this hard on something before. We are agreeing about the situation, we are agreeing about how this teacher is making me feel, I said I would handle it because I won't tolerate discrimination, and that I won't tolerate ignorant comments made. Whether that be "which one is the wife" or the "black and white one". That's when everything got ugly. She stated there was nothing to be handled and that she didn't want "drama". She also said, in so many words, that identifying us by the "black one" and "white one" was not ignorant considering she is "mixed". I informed her that being biracial doesn't give you a get out of ignorance card. There are plenty of people of all colors, sexuality, religions, and whatever else that are ignorant. Ignorance comes in all forms but ignorance never recognizes itself. I don't care if you are biracial, it is not ok to solely identify people by the color of their skin. Period. It's ignorant. The conversation got extremely intense and I ultimately told her that regardless of her opinion I will be handling this situation as I see fit. I said that if it affected her decision to have us watch her kids then I understand but also understand that it doesn't change the outcome. She then said she would find a new sitter next week in which I replied and said you need to find a new sitter immediately. You think you're going to talk and treat me like that and I'll still help you? You think I can watch your two boys who I absolutely adore for two last days and then be ok with never seeing them again? No. I won't continue to make things easier for you like I have the whole entire time I've been watching them. Not happening. Then I saw a drastic change in the attitude when she realized I was dead serious and was done working for her in that very moment. At the very end she even implied that I'm the one who made the decision. She said something along the lines of if you want to be like this then fine but I'm sorry it didn't work out and I have no hate. I'll make sure to upload the screenshots from Courtney and I to an album so you can all see how the conversation went for yourselves. I'm not afraid to stand up for myself and my beliefs. I've always fought my own battles so that's nothing new but I think what sickens me the most about all of this is how much of a slap in the face it truly is. I have gone above and beyond for these kids. I do things for them that are not a part of my job. I do it because I want to, I want them to feel loved, and I want to help them progress. What a huge slap in the face to simply want to defend yourself when you're being discriminated against and she chops it up to me starting "drama". I've learned to pick my battles because we can't fight them all. I know how much I'm stared at for looking different. I know how other people don't agree with my love life. I know all of these things about hate and ignorance but I also don't expect that to be acceptable at a school with such diverse students and parents. I don't think it's at all acceptable for you to impose your personal beliefs on somebody. Anything personal about me that you don't like is irrelevant. Your job is to hand over the child to me, period. This should not of been dragged out like this and I should of never been made to feel less than human. All I wanted to do was take stress off of my wife, pick up a child who we adore, and just go about the day. I was made to feel like some beastly creature who isn't fit to be around children. All of theses feeling and emotions are running through my head. I'm trying to understand why I'm so different that the process is being done differently for me. I'm trying to understand why I'm so different that the same rules don't apply to Aryanna. Why? Why make the comment "who is the wife"? What was going to come after that? The comment was irrelevant and didn't need to be said. Then she wants to stress this list that I need to get on since I legally need to be on it even though Aryanna isn't on it either. So... Weren't you breaking the law each and every time you released a child into the custody of somebody who is nowhere on paper? Not on a single list but you want to make sure you are legally covered with me? Doesn't make much sense. It's actually quite scary that this teacher has been releasing a student into the custody of a person you don't even have the name of. If somebody were to ask the teacher who just picked him up she wouldn't even know because in his file neither of us are written down. The laws you are trying to cover your ass with me about are the same laws you broke when releasing him into Aryanna's custody. Also, stating that the old teacher informed you on who she was will not be an acceptable defense considering it's your job to go to the student's file to make sure that everything is legally covered and safe. I know why this whole situation was made difficult for me and it's because of discrimination. Period. What is so hard about keeping your personal beliefs to yourself? There is no place for it in our schools. Separation of church and state, familiarize yourself with it, we have it for a reason. What is so hard about treating everyone as if we are human? What is so hard about treating people equally? What is so hard about releasing a child into the custody of a lesbian? What is so hard about all of this? No matter how many times I try to analyze the situation I know I'm not meant to understand it. Ignorance and hate lack logic so it isn't meant to make any sense. You just stand up, fight, move on, and grow. I'm no stranger to being discriminated against for my appearance but I will not tolerate it in a place deemed safe for students and adults. I will not tolerate Kim Moore being discriminative at John Bass Elementary and Courtney Lytle belittling the situation because she's too afraid of any type of conflict or confrontation. I think this whole story shows the characters of everyone involved. The actions taken by the mother, Courtney Lytle, and the teacher, Kim Moore, are absolutely disgusting and ignorant. I truly hope the school, John Bass Elementary, doesn't condone teachers discriminating against certain people picking up children and I hope more than anything else that the school doesn't condone teachers picking and choosing which laws they should be following. If adults need to be on a list in order to pick up a child wouldn't it be fair to assume that the same rules and policies apply to all adults??? I really hope something can be done about this teacher. I of course want justice for myself but honestly I'm more terrified that this teacher released a student, special needs student, into the custody of someone who isn't on the list yet in the same sentence is saying I must be on the list. Laws broken, a liability for the school, and danger for the students. Kim Moore, the teacher, screwed up from the get go by not checking files and paperwork to be sure it's all in order. From there she made ignorant comments and continued to try to make the situation difficult for me and only me. With no longer watching the children I thought it would be pointless to go down to the school but this story needs to be heard. Nothing about this was right. Nothing. I want justice but even if I don't get the justice I want I'll be satisfied with real life people knowing who these ignorant people are and who they work for. After reading this post go to the album and take a look at the screenshots for yourself. It's one thing to hear what was said but it's completely different to read it for yourself. I'm going to do my best to start healing and moving on from this. It all happened so abruptly and I was condemned for wanting to stand up against something that we all know isn't right. Because it didn't involve her personally she decided it wasn't a big enough issue to be dealt with. I will stand up before you ever catch me on my knees. I will get back up before you ever see me laying on the ground. I will be loud and make people uncomfortable about very real life issues that people try to sweep under the rug. Ignoring a problem makes you a part of it. Stand up for what's right even when you're the only one doing it. For those of you who want to try and look at things from a different perspective please don't waste my time as I gave the teacher the benefit of the doubt and it only got clearer how discriminative she truly was. I waited to be absolutely sure and after everything happened I knew I was a victim. I knew I was singled out. I knew I was being looked at different. You don't have to like me or agree with my life but I will demand to be treated just as equally as everyone else, period. There's absolutely no way around that. Because of the actions of Kim Moore, the teacher, and Courtney Lytle, the mother, the boys lose out on child care that actually wanted to see them progress, who didn't care about the profit, and just wanted them to feel loved. Courtney said she didn't want "drama" but is ok with how I'm being treated? That says a whole lot about you as a person. It really does. You are more concerned with you dealing with "drama" then the fact that the teacher didn't follow any protocol and was immediately discriminative. You are ok with somebody saying and doing what she did but not ok with me standing up for myself? You agreed with everything I said about the situation until I called you out on your ignorance and said I'll handle the whole situation. Instantly you went into defense mode, instantly you tried justifying all actions even though in just a few prior texts you were condemning the teacher. Which is it? The whole thread all you did was contradict yourself so which is it? Were you agreeing with me because it was convenient or now disagreeing with me because it's convenient? Kim Moore, the teacher, is disgusting for even putting everyone through this but Courtney Lytle, the mother, is equally as disgusting as the teacher for even remotely trying to justify the situation after she already agreed with me about it all. Made absolutely no sense. I will not change who I am to make anyone more comfortable. I will not walk through life scared of being treated different. John Bass Elementary, I'm extremely disappointed in your special needs teacher, Kim Moore. I know you have no control over the events that take place off school property but as for being discriminated against and laws being broken you have absolute control. If you so happen to read this, talk to the teacher, and see nothing wrong then everyone will know what you as a school stand for. Bigotry and hate. I hope you read this and are equally as outraged as myself. I hope you read this and handle it so no guardian or parent is ever made to feel less than human. I hope you read this and assure the community that you welcome all people of different backgrounds, cultures, and lifestyles. I hope you read this and realize how dire this situation truly is. Thank you all for reading this long post that I'm still so speechless about that writing a detailed description was more emotionally tolling having to relive it. I've said everything I need to say about the entire situation so I won't be entertaining any comments wanting to debate or argue about the events. This is my story, this is what happened, and it needs to be heard.

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